Warning! Naughty language ahead!
Ah! So much has been said and written about it, so many words have failed miserably trying to express the meaning of this super awesome, mind-blowing, heart-and-eyes-opening, world-as-i-know-it-shattering, life-changing exquisite phenomenon.
Love is such a great feeling to experience, what is better than love? Ok maybe chocolate!
We all want love, some of us are too shy to admit it, and some of us are living in self-denial, thinking we are fine without love. Some of us want it so much that we cling to a tiny sparkle of it in any stranger that shows us a little compassion, or recognition. Some of us find love and try to cage it, to insure it, or to secure it.
We lie for it, we cheat for it, we change for it, we live for it, and we die for it. It is all about Love.
Love is the reason we are all here.
Did you know that? You might think it is something else, but it is the love for that ‘something else’ that is the reason. Are you with me so far?
For some of us, love is a connection we have with other people, for some of us it is our connection with everything that IS. In short, we all have our own understanding/limitations of love, depending on how mature/courageous/spiritually aware, or just how alive we actually are.
Love is what we decided it to be for us. So we better learn to express it well to one another to avoid any future dramas and misunderstandings.
I have heard and said so many ‘I love you’s in my life that I could have built a castle by now….. if each ‘I love you’ was a block.
Seriously, I do mean my ‘I love you’ when I say those words, and I am sure – so do you.
The question is – How come that we run out of ‘I love you’s often and start running from each other? Well, I do, anyway. I run so far away from some peoples “I love you” that I don’t know where on Earth I am when I finally stop running.
Let’s look deeper into this “I love you” business. Shall we?
I might own a pair of running shoes, but I also own my own s..t, as younger people say, and I can easily participate in a conversation which my wounded ego might not sincerely enjoy. I want to hear what is your experience of my “I love you”, and I am open to share mine of yours. If you can do it too, we can have great fun and actually enjoy our ‘I love U’s together.
I love many things. I love LIFE; I Love my friends who put up with my brutal honesty and obsessive desire to rock this world into a place of Harmony and Truth. I love what I do with my life. I love my wounded and stitched-back together Self. I love being a Human being (it is about time, I am almost 50, God damn it!) I love each day that brings me another chance to Love, to Live, to Breath.. I love to feel stuff, to Be what I call “me” whatever that might be today.
As one beautiful author wrote: “I just love, and You happen to be on the way!” So if you happen to cross my path, I will love you as I love everything and everyone else in my life. What you choose to do with it is your responsibility, and yours only. It is like this: someone comes to you and says: ”Here is a million dollars for you, angel. Do what you wish with it.”
You would not be blaming the person who gave it to you if you chose to blow it all off, right? We get to decide what to do with our love, our time, our lives; and we let others dance around it. We are all FREE!
I met many people who have a different translation of Love. They say “I love you” but what they really mean is “I want your body “or “I want to own you” or even worse – “I want to take your freedom from you”. Wow, that is a bit too much to ask of a Spirit, don’t you think? Assuming you see me as a Spirit and not stuck somewhere around my bra. I am just teasing you, you know what i mean.
Honeys, here is the thing: wanting to f..k the brains out of those whom we find sexy does not mean we love them. It means we are horny creatures and they happen to be on our way.
Similar, wanting to control or possess another person, depriving them of their freedom to be who they are….. is not love either. It is hard to control at times, I know. We are human: we love someone so much that we get lost in our desire to be with them all the time. Hey! Let’s pull our gig together, please! We are here to support each others Light, to see into each others Souls. Love is the greatest gift we can offer to one another. Love sets us free!
So, let’s be clear about what we mean by our “I love you” from the start and we all will be safer and know where we stand.
How many today’s “I love you” will be turning into something else tomorrow? How many “I love you”s have already turned into “I hate you because you did not let me own you”? I had a few episodes in my love life when people got seriously upset by my understanding of Love and absolute non willingness to be owned or controlled. I was threatened and hated because i dare to say my “I love U” and f…g mean it. I feel there is a lot of room to improve on our “I love U”s. Not for some of you, you guys are awesome!
What do we mean when we say “I Love you”? Let’s be clear.
Perhaps, when we are about to enter a new ‘love story’ we could exchange little clarity notes with each other, so we see if we are actually aligned in the ‘I Love U’ business.
Here is my clarity note. I send it out now with more courage than ever. I have been blessed to experience the love in my life, as i know it, as i understand it.
What do I mean when I say: I LOVE YOU?
When I look into your eyes…… I see a reflection of myself. I look and feel: This could be me. I feel compassion for the troubles you went through, I feel sadness for your pain, I feel joy for your success and I am proud of your strength. I am another version of You. You are another me.
When I say “I love you” I mean: I SEE YOU. I HONOR YOUR PATH. I respect your choices even of they are not aligned with mine.
When I say “I love you”, what I mean is – I deeply care about you, about your human journey, about your conscious path, about your Soul, about your Light.
I mean – I AM HERE TO SUPPORT YOUR LIGHT. I wish for you what I wish for me.
I honor this dance of You and Me!
When I say “I love you” I do not mean “I will fight your battles for you or expect you to fight mine for me.” I do not mean “I will agree with everything you say and do.” I do not mean “I will support the unconscious in you.”
I mean the opposite – I will challenge the darkness/the unconscious in you. I will catch you when you fall off your consciousness sit and i will confront you with it. I will gently (ok, maybe not always that gently:-) challenge you, I will inspire the best in You…..
What is more is that I will expect you to do the same for me. Confront me gently with what i missed to see. Show me where i can be better. Be my extra pair of eyes!
Love show us that we are parts of One. I care about what is called “You” as much as I care about what is called “Me”, and I expect you to care the same way too. Love between us is our chance to learn, to grow and to shine the Light into the world!
If my “I love you” is not your ‘cup of tea’, I respect that.
Then your “I LOVE U” business is not the kind of love that I choose. Please, respect that and keep loving me when I find my running shoes.
I have a burning desire to LIVE to my full potential,I am determined to feel ALIVE every breath and every blink of an eye. I want to laugh so much that my face hurts, i want to shine as bright as the sun! I know in my heart that true Love sets us FREE!
This is my kind of LOVE:
Love is the highest experience there is. It is this ludicrous vibration, this cosmic energy of Oneness, this ultimate power that pulls us out of our little cocoons and makes us see what IS. It rushes in, it shakes us up, it stirs our shit up, leaving us so shattered and bewildered, that we can hardly breathe.
It comes in as this magnificent force and challenges every cell of our existence. It penetrates us until we lose the sight of who we are. It makes our hearts beat in a different way; it breaks us open, and strips us naked of everything that used to be “ME”.
It shocks our little human minds until they circuit and cannot think any longer… so we stop thinking altogether, and just start FEELing stuff. We get more intelligent and soul-educated because of love.
It ruins every illusion we thought was real….. It takes us apart into zillion of particles, scattering them all over the place. Woushhhh!
It takes these little star-like pieces and places them into all those around us: those we love and all those who challenge us. It sprinkles those ex-me-pieces all over the world; it puts them in to trees and flowers, clouds and rocks…… rainbows and stars….. so many places.
And then, when we are all broken and open, humble and empty….. mind-less and heart-full…. then…. ONLY then…. it sets us free!
…… and that is my “I LOVE U” business”
Thank you for spending time with me here. Let’s go and love now!